It
is said that people are lonely inside, that man is alone. This doesn’t sound
true. With the number of whatsapp groups, facebook posts, friends and family
around, loneliness seems the last thing a human, who is middle class and above
would encounter. Yet, one cannot deny the hypothesis altogether.
Are
so many associations we make because we feel lonely? Deep down that could be
the case. Not everybody would fall in this category. Some would more than the
others. Who are the ones who are lonelier? I have no index to measure. But as a
clown could be the saddest, the busiest could be the loneliest.
Ruskin
Bond felt lonely after his father died. He was with his mother’s family with
his half brothers, yet the feeling did not leave him. When he was with his
father, who would go out for work in the day, he did not write of a feeling of
loneliness even though he spent a good deal of time alone.
Some
people feel lonely when their partners leave. Lucky them! Others feel lonely
when they are with their partners. What can be said of such a tricky situation
except that the relationship better end! One could ask how you could feel
lonely in the presence of a partner or a group or a family. Just listen to the
conversation of drunkards at night and you will get a good deal of clarity.
Some
people work out of habit. Like the women in joint family who rise up early, do
their ablutions and get engaged in housework. They are dedicated to their work,
no matter what happens. In the similar vein are people who are lucky to get the
work of their liking. Like a rocket scientist whose childhood dream was to become one. Or a writer who can write full time. It is said that for
them, there is no work. Their work is their life and they love it. I guess this
class of people does not feel very lonely.
Others
work to get away from their loneliness. They just can’t be with themselves or
people around them. For them work is a way of getting away from their
loneliness. They keep themselves busy. But my guess is these classes of people
turn sad from the insides. One can notice they are not content. And such
discontent shows in their work or their behavior. And unless they are very
lucky they do not get rid of their loneliness. Sometimes they keep pets!
Do
you have a choice what class to become? Most people (the first class can also
keep pets by the way) would wish to be the first class. I would call them the
lucky ones, who can do what they set out for. Others not so lucky try all kinds
of things to get out of their loneliness. We have so many quotes telling us
that we should do what we love. I guess the people who say this from experience
know something we don’t. That doing what you love never gets you lonely.
2 comments:
kind of a tackling view: Loneliness is in relation to society. Being happy can be mapped to work, being lonely cannot.
I like your writings.
-a lucky-not-so-lucky ex student
Yes society plays a major role, I agree. Actually after I wrote this, wished to put a disclaimer 'I do not agree to all the views expressed in this blog. Read at your own risk.'
Thanks for liking my writings ex student.
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